Love is a relationship, free of all coercion, full of caring, warmth, and commitment, in which one person devotes themselves entirely to the well-being of another person.
Psychologist Robert Sternberg’s theory states that love consists of three obligatory components: intimacy, passion, and commitment.
— Intimacy is not just closeness but also mutual support and partnership. It’s a component that increases as the lovers get closer, and while a calm, measured life may not manifest itself, its actual value shines through in a crisis when the couple has to overcome difficulties together.
— Passion is a feeling of sexual attraction. It may reach its highest point at the beginning of the relationship, but it doesn’t stop growing in a long relationship. Indeed, it may not be the primary motivator for the couple, but it’s always there, reminding them of the spark that ignited their love.
— Commitment — the willingness to be faithful to the other person. This is the only component of love that remains steadfast and grows in importance over time in any relationship (long-term and short-term), providing a sense of security and stability.
Friendship (or mere sympathy) is characterized by spiritual closeness and affection without passion or devotion. Passionate infatuation (obsession) is what is called love at first sight. This intense feeling, while exhilarating, often lacks the depth of intimacy and commitment, making it a fleeting experience. In empty love, there is no intimacy and passion, but devotion and mutual commitment remain. Romantic love is characterized by intimacy and passion, which involves sexual attraction and emotional connection, but without commitment.
The initial passion may have faded in companionate love, but a deep sense of devotion, mutual commitment, affection, and sympathy for each other remains. This enduring feeling often binds relatives, close friends, and sometimes spouses. Meaningless love involves only the presence of passion and devotion but without deep intimacy. Such a feeling can lead to a short, impulsive marriage. The ratio of intimacy, love, and commitment is constantly changing in human relationships
Love, a complex and fascinating emotion, manifests in two distinct forms: passionate and compassionate.
Passionate love, a whirlwind of emotions, is a feeling of intense sexual attraction and a burning desire to be with another person. It’s like a firework, bright and explosive but often short-lived, lasting from six months to three years. However, it can also transform into a more enduring form of love.
Compassionate love includes feelings of affection, respect, trust, and favor, lasting much longer.
There is a difference between mutual love, which leads to feelings of euphoria and fulfillment, and undivided love, which leads to frustration and despair. For mutual love to occur, several factors must be present, including:
- Willingness to fall in love.
- People fall in love with people who are similar to them.
- Long-term relationships arise between balanced people who are firmly and sincerely attached. An impulsive and restless person falls in love quickly and cools off quickly, often incapable of a long-term relationship.
Love is an internal drug. When the brain releases the pleasure hormone dopamine, it creates a feeling of happiness and serenity. Love is a natural human need: to feel loved and give others these beautiful emotions! This is the only way a person can be happy and satisfied.
There are seven stages of love development:
— Falling in love — a short period when lovers are immersed in a state of euphoria, notice only all the good things, and do not see the opposing sides of each other, but everything quickly ends when people begin to live together or plan a wedding, face domestic troubles;
— Saturation — lovers begin to «evaluate their love» in a different way, they begin to live together, which can lead to separation or family unity;
— Disgust — a real test for lovers. They become selfish; reciprocity disappears; without this stage, it is impossible to step into another world, an actual realization of love;
— Humility — lovers begin to look at each other adequately, accept their soulmate as a separate person, with all vices and shortcomings, start a period of self-improvement, improvement, and mutual understanding;
— Service — people fully immerse themselves in the world of bliss, the personification of wisdom and righteousness, support each other in any endeavor;
— Friendship — accepting each other as a close person, lovers devote more time to their soulmate, get to know themselves anew, and build a new relationship full of craziness;
— Love — Partners have come a long way, learned to appreciate and love truly, and now perceive each other as a whole, without mercantile attitudes and cunning tricks!
Love does not ask for anything — this feeling gives warmth, mental harmony, and pleasure.
If there is a blind love addiction, then it is necessary to get rid of it, no matter how difficult it would be at first! Such feelings force the partner to always be with the chosen one, be jealous, and forgive even in the most severe cases, eventually destroying the personality.
That’s how I understand Love! And also, Love has nothing to do with the search for new pleasures, and for a pederast, the search for new pleasures is the meaning of life. That is why this category of people is not able to love and is not able to appreciate Love towards themselves! These people quickly play with other people’s feelings, using them to satisfy their selfish intentions and realize their sexual fantasies. And in return, you can get nothing but problems from them! Their heart is empty, as is their head and pocket! Everything in life is connected: poverty in the heart, meager education, money problems — often together!
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The articles on this site are intended for persons over 18 years of age. The author of the articles is of the opinion that Men who have sex with men (MSM) are divided into two subcultures: GAY and PEDERAST.
The author explains the difference between these subcultures. The author’s target audience is Gay men. Articles are written for this audience, and may cause inadequate psycho-emotional reactions in representatives of other subcultures. The author wishes to communicate with gay men, and does not wish to communicate with pederast men.
